I’m a Conservative Christian, and I Intend to Vote “Yes” to Same-Sex Marriage


I want to start a conversation. A conversation that we don’t seem to be having inside the Church. We’re at a very unique and important place in Australian history where, like it or not, the whole country is getting the chance to “have its say,” on the contentious topic of same-sex marriage. But, while it is contentious within the nation of Australia, there seems to be almost no contention within the theologically conservative Church about what the best way to vote would be. That is, among Christians who hold the classical, historically Christian view of marriage and sexuality – of which I am one – there is a near universal assumption that the only faithful Christian course of action is to vote “No”.

I want to question that assumption. I want to challenge the way we are all thinking about it as a Church. I want to propose that the most God-honouring thing might be to vote in favour of same-sex marriage, or otherwise to abstain from voting at all. And I want to invite Christians to consider choosing one of these two options. I don’t see this as a case of disregarding the Bible’s teachings for pragmatic or any other reasons; I see it as an honest attempt, with fear and trembling, to apply Biblical priorities and principles to a complex world.

*TLDR: I understand that this article borders on the gargantuan. It has been incredibly hard to try to do the topic justice as concisely as I can.

But I have make this article skimmable by putting some of the most important sentences in bold.



The moral vs the political

The first thing I want to clear up is that the question about the moral status of homosexual relationships is a related but completely separate question to the question of same-sex marriage. One is a purely moral question, the other is a political and legal question. The political takes into account the moral, but it also takes into account many other things. This is why, while it’s immoral for high school girls to systematically and vindictively exclude each other from their lunch time groups, it’s not illegal and shouldn’t be. Christians believe that it’s immoral for two unmarried people to have sex with each other, but we don’t believe it should be illegal. Likewise, we may believe that homosexual sex is outside of God’s best intentions for human sexuality, but we don’t believe that it ought to be illegal, even though not that long ago it was. That is because the state (in a Western democracy) is rightly not intrinsically interested in punishing people for immoral acts. It is interested in creating whatever laws happen to enable our society to function peacefully and prosperously. Of course the definition of peace, prosperity, and the good life, will be determined by one’s ethical worldview. And so it is not that good laws won’t be informed by a moral framework. But the laws are not equal to the framework.

And this is a wonderful context for Christianity to operate in because it means that we have the opportunity to persuade people to freely choose to live God’s way rather than have them coerced to do so by the government. To God, only voluntary obedience is of any worth. God want our hearts, not just our actions. He’s only interested in obedience that comes from genuine love and desire – something which no amount of legislation can generate. And for the most part, Christians in Australia get this. There are all kinds of moral laws that we don’t think should be enforced by law. So, why then is it that so many of us automatically think that if God disapproves of homosexual activity, that that answers the question of what the state’s role is in recognising homosexual couples? The Bible is clear on sexuality itself and what marriage is. But it is actually silent on how Christians ought to respond to a nation of unbelievers that want to deviate from the Biblical understanding of marriage. Why, then, do so many of us default to thinking that the questions of homosexuality itself and of gay marriage are one and the same question?

Framing the debate

Of course not all who oppose same-sex marriage (hereafter SSM) have simplified things to quite that degree. Many have thought very carefully about this, concluding that not only from a moral point of view is God’s intention for marriage that it be between a man and a woman, but also that the legalisation of homosexual marriage will not be conducive to the flourishing of our society. And this question of the societal consequences of SSM has dominated the debate. To convince a secular culture, Christians have produced numerous secular arguments positing that SSM will not be good for our society. I want to spend the first portion of this article assessing whether the arguments we’ve given against gay marriage can reasonably be expected to succeed in persuading a secular mind. From there I will begin to look at whether these and other argument ought to persuade Christians to vote against SSM.




The rights of children

Many Christians have said that children have a right to being raised by both of their biological parents, that this is the ideal, and gay marriage, by design, robs some children of that possibility. Well… the thing is, not really. Because, regardless of whether or not they are married, gay couples are already raising children. They can legally adopt children, and many of them also choose for one member of the couple to have a biological child by whatever means, and for them to raise that child together. I don’t know how to put this more clearly. This is already happening. The ability of same-sex couples to be married makes no difference to whether or not they raise children.

Further, while I do believe that a child being raised by both of their biological parents who are married to each other is the ideal situation for any child, we must remember that this is only one of many factors that contribute to the ideal situation. We know that countless children who are raised by both of their biological parents are experiencing terrible domestic situations. No, that doesn’t negate the fact that both biological parents is ideal, but it shows that the presence of both biological parents isn’t by itself enough to create the ideal. There also needs to be love, economic security, good access to education, safety from physical and sexual abuse, and so, so many other factors. All other things being equal, a child will be better off with both of their biological parents, but the reality is all other things are not equal. We are not going to get the ideal in most cases so we simply need to accept the good. And there exist gay couples who are in a far better position to provide a good upbringing for some children than those children’s biological parents. Moreover the statistics show that the adoptive children of same-sex couples tend to do better in life than the overall average, yes the overall average. This is partly because gay couples that wind up adopting tend to be people who really, really want kids, and are also in a financial position to go through the difficult and expensive process of adoption. Meanwhile all manner of heterosexual couples around the world are having children by accident, well before they’re financially or emotionally ready to do so. It’s just wrong to say that gay couples can’t provide children with genuine, meaningful love. Many of them can be far better parenting teams than than innumerable heterosexual couples. This is something I believe the church needs to accept and embrace.

Children as a reason for gay marriage

Now there’s more to say about children. One of the ways Christians have argued against SSM is to bring up the whole question of, why does the state even need to play any role in marriage in the first place? Why not just leave the state out of it and leave marriage as a purely cultural (and sometimes religious) phenomenon? The reason, which I think is a good answer to a good question, is because of children. Children need parents, and children are going to be way better off if both of their parents stick together. State sanctioned marriage is a way of adding legal force to the union of a couple, such that when they produce children, the state makes it hard for them to leave each other. That legal accountability to the couple’s marriage vows is in the child’s interest. The anti SSM argument goes, since gay relationships are inherently sterile, there’s no need for the state to take an interest in them.

It was only a couple of weeks ago that I realised how much this argument backfires. And boy does it backfire. Because it actually turns out to be one of the best arguments for gay marriage that I’ve been able to think of.

Think about it… Gay couples have children. What would happen to those children if their gay parents were to split up? Wouldn’t that make things worse for the child? Isn’t the fact that the state’s interest in marriage is contingent only on the rearing of children a really good reason for the state to barge in on gay relationships and keep those families together too? Isn’t the welfare of children a really good reason to have gay marriage?

What’s in a name?

But of course, why call it marriage? One common argument we’ve made against SSM is that, well, that’s not what marriage is. Marriage has always been defined as the union of one man and one woman. To take a word and a concept that has always meant one thing, and then to redefine it as we see fit is just dishonest – calling something marriage doesn’t make it marriage. We can have same-sex relationships, but why do we need to call them marriage? I will say that this argument is especially relevant in present-day Australia in which the legally recognised de facto relationships that gay couples can partake in enjoy almost all of the legal benefits of marriage. For the most part all they really lack is the name.

This argument is stronger in a way than many others Christians have made because it doesn’t rely on any discredited empirical or factual claims. Instead it appeals to intuitions of both semantics and tradition that are commonly felt – that that’s just not what marriage is. The problem with this is that it can’t really be proven right or wrong. It becomes as much a matter of opinion as disputes about when “next Friday” becomes “this Friday”. It’s just an argument about what people think a word means.

Thus the semantic argument against gay marriage is only as persuasive as its sentimental power. And it has some, but can that power match the sentimental power of the gay community seeking the recognition that they feel would be endowed upon their personhood by their inclusion into the institution of marriage? Not even close. The fact is that words can change their meaning; it happens all the time, and if you believe that homosexual relationships are just as virtuous and healthy as heterosexual ones, and if you feel that gay couples are being discriminated against by their exclusion from the symbolic legitimacy that the title “marriage” places upon relationships, then in your mind any semantic conservatism that must be sacrificed to change the definition of the word is a negligible price to pay. And if you think that something of such deep importance to you is being withheld from you because of a mere semantic quibble, you will not feel that you and your community are being afforded due consideration and respect. I see no reason why a person without a Christian sexual ethic ought to be convinced by this argument.

The bottom line

The main point I’ve been trying to make up to this point is, our secular arguments against gay marriage have not convinced our society. But really, we shouldn’t be surprised. The whole enterprise of Christians using secular arguments to persuade secular people to adopt Christian values is a pretty strange one. Why did we ever think that would work? Here’s the bottom line: Despite going to great lengths to downplay its relevance to the debate, the fact can’t be avoided that Christians only have an objection to SSM because of a moral objection to homosexuality. Now, our society simply does not believe, in fact repudiates the very notion, that there is anything morally wrong with homosexuality. And we have learnt well that arguing against SSM by trying to convince people of some moral fault with homosexuality is a lost cause, but we don’t seem to have learnt that, in the absence of that underwriting moral objection to homosexual relationships themselves, no argument against SSM will ever make adequate sense.




And so I think the project of using secular arguments to persuade our culture against SSM is a failed one. The question now is, how ought these arguments be received by us as Christians?

Sticking to our job (The problem with secular arguments)

Well, to my mind one of the overarching problems with all these secularised arguments that have characterised so much of the Church’s opposition to SSM is that it’s not our job as Christians to make them. Because these secular arguments by their very design go beyond what God has revealed to us. That doesn’t mean they’re wrong (though I think they are), but it means that they’re not the things God has sent us to tell the world. I recently read an anti-SSM article by a Christian who analysed Roman and Greek culture and attributed both of their declines to the breakdown of the strength of the family unit due to sexual deviance. It predicted that if we continue down our current path the same thing will happen to us. Arguments like this, as well as ones about the impact SSM would have on children and semantic arguments about the meaning of a word, strike me as being disconnected from the message God has told us to tell the world. If the redefinition of marriage will cause a gradual deterioration of the family and therefore society, God hasn’t told us about it. Because the Bible never tells us that; we have reasoned it ourselves. These insights didn’t come from someone’s knowledge of the Bible, but from someone’s knowledge of sociology and political philosophy. Anyone could have made these insights, regardless of whether they’re a Christian. And being a Christian doesn’t make you the best amateur sociologist, philosopher or historian. We are not called to be right about everything; we are just called to be right about who Jesus is.

Being a Christian ought to have no bearing whatever on whether I am persuaded by secular arguments against SSM that are based on worldly predictions about its effect on children, families, and broader society. That SSM would be bad for children or will cause society to crumble is not the “Christian position.” It is just the position some Christians have taken. Being a Christian does not constrain you to accept it.

I believe that we as the Church would have much to gain if we focus our energies on saying the things that only we can say. And leave it to the world to discuss worldly matters. It is not our job as Christians to correct the world on everything. It’s not our job to tell them about insights we have arrived at by our own intelligence. Our job is to deliver to them the message God has spoken. And I believe the more we strip our message down to focussing on just the things God has said, the more fresh, inspired, credible, and powerful our message will be. Because the world doesn’t need to hear our ideas one trillionth as much as it needs to hear God’s. And I wonder if the fact that we think we have time to do someone else’s job means we have been neglecting to do our own.

A stalemate of symbols

I’ve been trying to show that our secular arguments against SSM have failed to show that there will be any negative societal consequences as a result of gay marriage – in fact it could well have good consequences for children. These anti-SSM arguments don’t convince non-Christians and they shouldn’t convince Christians either, especially since they have little to do with Christianity. Concordantly, at the end of the day is that it is only those who have some moral objection to homosexuality itself that have any reason to oppose SSM.

And at this point, I think we all have to admit that the significance of gay marriage is almost entirely symbolic. Of course, both sides of the debate have been using this as an argument. The gay rights movement say, “It’s just a symbol, why does it matter to you so much?” And the Christians say, “It’s just a symbol, why does it matter to you so much?” While I think both of these arguments are actually quite powerful, I’ve come to realise that gay people’s desire for the symbol of marriage is not as childish as I once thought. Symbols are important in society, and they communicate things very powerfully. For gay couples to be bear the title “marriage” means that, after centuries of persecution for their sexuality, gay relationships are recognised as just as legitimate and valuable and human as heterosexual ones.

It can be easy to forget that it’s actually not easy to be gay, even in 21st Century Australia. That there are very few people who, if given the choice, would choose that orientation given the hardships it comes along with in life: There is still discrimination, there is still marginalisation, there is still bullying – things that I just have no experiential understanding of. Same-sex marriage, by contrast, would be a powerful symbolic recognition of the equal personhood of homosexual people. It would reverse the message that society has sent to gay people for centuries – that they are unworthy of consideration, dignity, even safety – and instead it would celebrate homosexual people, saying that they and their relationships are valid, valued, and important. I think the impact this would have on the lived experience of a gay person is real. The felt safety and affirmation of living in a society that is officially on their side is, I think, a very important thing to take into account.

Christians want to affirm and celebrate homosexual people, but they’re uncomfortable with society celebrating homosexual relationships.

Christians, the world, and sin

So what is the right Christian reaction to the world celebrating something the God denounces? Well here I think Christians need to remember that we do not own this world. That our citizenship is in Heaven, and we are sojourners and exiles here on Earth. That our job is not to shape the present world into our image, but to conform ourselves into Christ’s image so that in us the world can see Christ. That we are not called to demand that the world act like God’s kingdom, but are called to simply be God’s kingdom and invite those in the world across the border.

Of course, part of the way we be God’s kingdom is indeed by defending the oppressed and marginalised, which sometimes does involve petitioning governing authorities to act mercifully and justly. But read the New Testament: This directive for the Church was never about holding society to a standard of morality or holiness for its own sake – it was always mandated specifically with a view towards helping “the least of these.” That is, the goal was not to hold people to account for their evils, but to alleviate the impact of evil on the lives of those affected. The New Testament always assumed that the world will follow its own way. That’s why Paul in 1 Corinthians 5 tells us that it is not for us to judge outsiders; it is only for us to judge within the Church (and note that the context here is specifically about sexual sin). The Church is only called to intervene in the world’s sin where there is a victim in need of protection. The fact is, homosexual sex is an act committed between two consenting individuals. There is no victim involved that the Church needs to step in to protect. I believe that what unbelievers do regarding homosexual activity is not under our jurisdiction; it is not our concern.

Likewise, unless we can show that the state’s sanctioning of same-sex marriage will have serious, real-life, foreseeable, damaging consequences for our society – that it would entail the oppression of someone – I don’t think it makes any sense to try to hold the nation to our standard. I believe it is a case for the Church to let the world be the world, while showing them what it is to be the Kingdom.




But here’s a question: What if the victim is the Church?

That is, what if the legalisation of same-sex marriage will entail violations of the rights of Christians (or people of other faiths) to sincerely disagree? This is where one of the more significant concerns Christians have about SSM comes into play – that of religious freedom: Will pastors be compelled by law to marry same sex couples or otherwise go to prison, as does seem to be happening in some countries? Will all ideological disagreement with SSM be defined by law as hate speech?

The wrong target

Well the thing is, no matter how connected they are, the legalisation of same-sex marriage and the Church’s right to disagree with it are fundamentally distinct issues. There is no necessary connection between the legalisation of SSM and the prosecution of anyone who refuses to conduct same-sex weddings. Currently in Australia, celebrants are under no obligation to marry any couples they don’t want to marry for pretty much any reason, even if it’s because they’re a part of the wrong denomination. There is no reason why the broadening of the definition of marriage should change that. And in reality all the proposed legislation for SSM includes provisions for celebrants to refuse to marry couples based on sincerely held religious beliefs.

More broadly, it’s one thing to make a law; it’s quite another to say that you’re not allowed to disagree with that law. The question of religious freedom is not about whether SSM exists, but about whether people are allowed to disagree with it. There are so many laws that we all have a right to express disagreement on; why should SSM laws be any different? And on any laws with which there is no right to express disagreement, the problem is not that the law exists, but that freedom of speech doesn’t. Why do we think that the prevention of SSM is necessary for the retention of religious freedom? Any threat to religious liberty that SSM comes along with is not an essential part of what SSM is, and can be quite easily avoided with well worded legislation. In fact I fear that the more we push this idea that we cannot have SSM and religious freedom simultaneously, the more we perpetuate the narrative that tolerance equals agreement and that it is impossible to have a society in which peaceful disagreement exists. Even if problems for religious freedom do arise out of SSM, they can be resolved without having to going back to the traditional definition of marriage. Because the enemy of religious freedom is not gay marriage; it is religious intolerance. We can accept gay marriage while still fighting against religious intolerance. I am aware that there have been serious violations of religious freedom in some countries in relation to gay marriage. But I am saying that I don’t think preventing gay marriage is the only way, or the best way to stop such things from happening.

The Church vs.

But here’s the thing, even if the gay lobby is a bloodthirsty persecution machine that is out to get Christians (which I really do doubt is their main objective), what is that to us? It troubles me that one of the main and most strongly felt objections the Church has to SSM is the threat that SSM poses to the Church, as if we object to it because we feel threatened. It makes me wonder what we think our goal is as Christians. This passionate resistance to SSM for the sake of safeguarding our religious freedom comes across as if Christians are primarily concerned with protecting our own tribe, even at the expense of others. I fear that it communicates to the gay community that we are more worried about our own well being than we are about theirs. And more than that, I fear that we are more worried about our own well being than we are about theirs. I fear that it communicates to the gay community that we have an “us vs. them” mentality towards them. And more than that I fear that we do have an “us vs. them” mentality, as if our purpose as Christians in this world is just to get on with this life peacefully and happily, defending ourselves against any competing tribes who try to stop us from getting our due.

My friends, why would we try to compete with the world when we exist for the world? We are the Church. We are not of this world. The world’s concerns are not our concerns. It’s wars are not our wars. Its governments are not our adjudicators, and its armies are not our defenders. We serve a higher King, and he has sent us with one mission, and that mission defines our every action: to serve the world by preaching the good news of Jesus Christ. Don’t we know that there is nothing the world can throw at us that can threaten the Church? The Church is indestructible. It exists and persists by the very power of God, and not even the gates of Hell itself could ever prevail against it. Why are we trying to protect the Church from the world when it is the Church’s job to save the world?

Should we chase after persecution? Certainly not. Should we try to avoid persecution by reasoning with those in power? Absolutely. But we can do that without opposing gay marriage. And avoiding the persecution of the Church by stopping gay marriage from happening makes it appear as if the gay community is Christian enemy number one. It is seen by the gay community as us persecuting them before they gain the power to persecute us. Indeed, I wonder if their assessment is accurate. It appears as if we are vigilantly careful with our lives, but callously reckless with theirs, willing to prevent them from enjoying the recognition of marriage in order to avoid hardships for ourselves even though these hardships can be avoided in other ways.

These actions are pushing gay people away from us. This unnecessary yet firm opposition to gay marriage creates an enmity between the Church and gay people, and is thus a hindrance to them hearing the Gospel. And for that reason it can’t possibly be the best way to escape persecution as Christians. It’s important to avoid persecution and to value our earthly lives. But it’s more important to reach other people with the Good News, and value their eternal lives. How can we make an enemy out of the ones God has sent us to rescue?

Overall, I am personally not too worried about religious freedom in the face of SSM in Australia. I would like to trust the people of the Australian SSM movement when they say they’re not trying to take away religious liberty from anyone but are only trying to increase their own liberties. Apart from anything else I think that choosing to trust people is a good way of building trust. But ultimately I think we are faced with something of far more urgent concern than the distant possibility of the loss of religious freedom. Because the Church is indestructible. But the lives of gay people are not.




We are losing more than a debate

The reality is, we are losing this debate. But there is something more important to talk about. Because we are losing more than a debate. We are losing friendships. The relationship between the Christian and the gay communities is currently entirely occupied with – to the point of being defined by – the debate over same-sex marriage. And because of this, the relationship between our two groups is overwhelmingly characterised by enmity. The debate about SSM is getting in the way of relationship. And as Christians we need to take that as a serious problem.

I recently read an article written by an Australian Christian that pointed out the fact that relationships are being torn apart by the debate over SSM. But to my disappointment, the author was pleased to sacrifice these relationships and friendships for the sake of “speaking the truth”. He considered the division to be the fault of gay people’s unwillingness to listen to truth. And he encouraged Christians to continue to speak out against gay marriage to their gay friends, even at risk of losing the friendship.

I propose that that is actually not a Godly way of approaching this. I think there is a better way. There is a difference between being a people pleaser and being someone who simply values relationships. While we mustn’t live for the praise and approval of people, we must follow Paul’s example in becoming all things to all people that by all means we might save some (1 Corinthians 9:22). We must aspire, as Paul commends in 1 Timothy 3:7, to be well thought of by unbelievers. And we must obey the command in Romans 12:18 to, if possible, as far as it depends on us, live peaceably with all. (I find that it tends to depend on “us” far more than we realise.) See, there is a way of not caring what people think that is actually just a lack of care for people – an unchristlike disregard for relationships.

To me the fact that there is such a wide and deep division between the Christian community and the gay community is too terrible, too important, too alarming a reality to accept and settle for. Are we really ok with allowing several generations of gay people to be almost entirely unreached by the Gospel? I believe we the Church (and not just previous generations of the Church but this one) are more responsible for this divide than many of us have realised. I do not think we have been doing all that we can to live peaceably with the gay community. I don’t think we have been doing all that we can to save them. I think there is yet more we can do. We have been choosing to sacrifice peace for the sake of “speaking the truth.” But we need to understand that this is not just about a debate between ideologies. This is not just about what the correct answer is to a philosophical question. This is about people. And the fact is, Christians are pushing gay people away by our insistence on continuing to fight against gay marriage. And as we push them away from our community, we become a hindrance to them discovering the love of Christ.

What are they hearing?

What do you think is the main message God wants to communicate to gay people? I think it is clear: God wants to say that he loves them. The main message God has for the gay community is not about marriage, or sex, or sexuality. It is the same message he has for everyone: He loves them and he wants them. But what do you think is the main message gay people are hearing from Christians? How often do we talk publicly about homosexual people in a way that isn’t dominated by the topic of SSM, and isn’t broadly characterised by disagreement? Unfortunately, most gay people seem to believe that the primary attitude of Christians towards them is one of opposition, and our primary message towards them can be aptly summarised as, “No.”

I am not okay with gay people thinking that God’s main message for them is that he is against them. Whether we mean it or not, our fervent opposition to their ability to get married is taken by them as fervent opposition to them as people. It doesn’t matter if we don’t actually oppose or hate gay people. If they think we do, we have a problem that we must take responsibility for. A pastor friend of mine once told me that effective communication is not about the message you deliver; it’s about the message they receive. As the Church I think we need to start taking responsibility for the message that the LGBT community is receiving from us. Because here’s the thing: Our attempts to try to clarify that our resistance to gay marriage has nothing to do with any contempt for them as people clearly haven’t worked. They just don’t believe us. And it’s not enough to just say that that’s their fault and they should believe us. Put yourself in their shoes for one second: Would you really believe the Church if you were them?

That same pastor friend of mine recently said something to me that stuck: The Church hasn’t been there for gay people. We weren’t there for them when their sexual activity was outlawed. We weren’t there for them when they were hunted down and beaten in the streets. We weren’t there to defend and stand up for them when they were being bullied in schools and workplaces. We haven’t been there on their side in the past. Why should we expect them to listen to us now? Why should they believe that the Church’s current antagonism to gay marriage is not just more of the same disregard for their welfare that they have come to know all too well from the Church?




I am convinced that the only way that we can mend the relationship between Christians and gay people is to, believe it or not… stop arguing with them. Stop speaking and acting against same-sex marriage. Stop being an obstacle for them getting this thing that means so much to them, that they consider to be the ultimate recognition by the state of their equal personhood. I believe we have said enough about it. I don’t think we need to explain it anymore, or remind them anymore. And unfortunately every sentence we utter in resistance to gay marriage only reinforces the enmity between our two communities and only continues to push them away. The faintest whisper of it is a deafening screeching in their ears that drowns out anything we try to say about God’s love for them. I believe it is time to stop talking about gay marriage, and focus entirely on talking to the gay community about God’s perfect, amazing love – for as long as it takes, until they forgive the Church for its sins against them. Until God’s main message to gay people can be heard again.

I think we do need to accept the relative inevitability of SSM in Australia, and the futility of any attempt to prevent it. If SSM is blocked this time around, it will only be postponed another few years, and the cost will be a gay community that is even more frustrated and alienated from ourselves than before. We need to ask ourselves, is this losing battle worth continuing to fight, at the expense of enormous relational damage, just for the symbolic value of not giving in? Was this battle ever worth winning in the first place? Is this really what God has commissioned us to do? Are we going to stay in this sinking ship and go down with it, along with any hope of reaching current generations in the gay community with the love of Christ?

I want same-sex marriage legislation to pass in Australia because 1) I believe it would make Australia feel kinder and safer for gay people, 2) It’s not the mission of Christians to hold the world to our standards on this type of issue, and 3) I believe it would end a conversation, a conversation that is not doing the gay community or the Church any good.

My invitation to Christians

Christians, I can’t tell you how to vote. Part of what I’m trying to challenge here is the notion that there is only one Christian way to vote on this issue. But I am asking you to seriously consider joining me in voting “Yes” to same-sex marriage. To do this as an act of friendship, so that we can help make the world better and kinder for gay people. So that they can feel safe and valued as equals in this country. And so that this monumental obstacle in the way of relationship, and this loud distraction from God’s main message to the gay community, will be gone.

If you don’t feel that you are able to vote “Yes,” I would ask you to consider abstaining from voting. You don’t have to help make SSM happen, but you don’t have to take action to prevent it either.

I am sure at this point the objections are still many. Let me now consider a couple of objections you might be thinking about:

What do they need to know?

You might be thinking, “Well they need to know the truth.” But, first of all, not all true things need to be said at any given time. Proverbs tells repeatedly of the wisdom of silence. Proverbs 12:23 says, “A prudent man conceals knowledge,” (also see Proverbs 10:19, 13:3, 29:11, 29:20). Wisdom tells us when to refrain from speaking true things because we understand the consequences of our words. Second of all, telling someone something doesn’t make them know it. They already know what Christians think the truth is. Saying it again won’t suddenly make them believe that it is the truth. The only piece of knowledge they’ll gain if you tell them that homosexuality is sinful is that you think that. Just because you’ve said something to someone, doesn’t mean they’re any closer to believing it.

And third, yes, you’re right they need to know the truth: They need to know that they are deeply and unconditionally loved by the one who created them. They need to know this desperately and urgently. And our loud talking against gay marriage is stopping them from being able to know that truth! People need to know the truth but they don’t need to know every truth equally. Some truths are more important than others. It is nowhere near as important that they are told about the Christian understanding of homosexuality as it is that they are told about what God has done for them in Jesus. We do not need to convert them to a Christian sexual ethic. That on its own will ultimately do nothing for them. We need to invite them into a relationship with Jesus, and upon their acceptance of that invitation can we then begin to graciously and slowly work out with them what discipleship looks like, knowing that neither they nor we will ever have it all worked out. Telling them about the Christian sexual ethic is hindering them from hearing about Christ. It is infinitely more important that they hear about Christ. I don’t want these people to miss out on Jesus because I was pushing them away by talking about something other than Jesus!

The meaning of a vote

Now maybe you’re thinking that by voting yes you’d be enabling or condoning sin. But first of all, gay people are already in homosexual relationships and will continue to be whether they’re married or not. This is not going to affect people’s sexual behaviour. So certainly doesn’t enable anything that is currently disabled. And second, saying that it necessarily condones sin fails to appreciate the complexity of what a vote means.

The crazy thing about democracy is that we have the opportunity to express our preference, but our form of expression is always limited to a one-word answer to an incredibly complex question. A lot of Christians think that by voting in favour of same-sex marriage, you are necessarily expressing an endorsement and approval of same-sex relationships. But, in a world where all kinds of people can prefer the same outcome for radically different reasons, I don’t think it is reasonable to assign only one possible meaning to any given vote. During the Trump vs Clinton election in the USA, there were a number of people who thought Trump was a buffoon, but who wanted to vote for him. Why? Because, for whatever reason, they thought the consequences of him being in office would be better than the consequences of Hillary Clinton being in office. Some of them even thought that Trump’s policies were positively worse than Clinton’s, but that because of his lack of political tact and poor standing with other politicians, he would be unable to get anything done politically, and they thought a president who can get nothing done is better than president Clinton effecting her policies. But I heard so many people say that you can’t vote for Trump because a vote for Trump is by definition an endorsement of him, an affirmation of his fitness for office. They suggested not voting at all. But to this these voters tended to reply that to not vote was to effectively hand the presidency to Clinton, that failing to act was the equivalent of acting towards a worse outcome.

Perhaps you can see here that there were two very different understandings of a vote. One ideological and one consequential. One group saw a vote as an expression of favour and approval towards a candidate; the other saw a vote as an action that influences an outcome. For the latter group, to vote for Trump didn’t mean that they approved of him, and it didn’t mean that they would vote for him in any election at any point in history; it just meant that in that situation, all things considered, they would prefer a state of affairs in which Trump was the president. But the other group saw a vote as an endorsement of a leader and felt that they couldn’t in good conscience express such a thing about Donald Trump.

My point is, I don’t think either the ideological voters or the consequentialist voters had a monopoly of correctness on that question. There were genuine merits to both sides, and we don’t need to go around to people insisting that their vote expressed one particular idea. I think there is room for many people to vote for the same thing for different reasons. To deny that possibility fails to appreciate the complexity of a democratic society, and the complexity of every single issue that has ever been voted on. It is precisely because voting is a single-word answer to a complex question that large, diverse populations are able to vote on anything at all. The more detail you put into an option on a ballot paper, the more reasons there will be for large portions of voters to disagree with it. If we had to choose between two 1000-word essays on the merits of either side, almost no-one would find either option to be representative of their view. The fewer words in the ballot, the fewer words we put in voter’s mouths. Voting is vague, and that is a good thing. Any vote can be interpreted in a number of ways. To say that voting “Yes” to gay marriage intrinsically means that you endorse the celebration of homosexuality is like saying that voting “No” intrinsically means that you hate gay people. Both of these are putting words in people’s mouths.

For me, voting “Yes” means that, in the current state of affairs, all things considered, I think the best outcome for our society will be if gay couples are able to get married. Could I be misinterpreted? Sure. But, first of all, Jesus didn’t seem to worried about being misinterpreted to be condoning sin when he associated with sinners. He seemed much more concerned with ensuring that these sinners knew they were loved. And it was an absolute scandal. And second, as I’ve mentioned, voting “No” could be misinterpreted. Voting “No” can and will be received by a vast number of gay people as expressing hatred or disdain for gay people. How is that better than being interpreted to be endorsing homosexuality? We’re worried about being seen to endorse sin? Hatred is sin. Being a violation of literally the most important commandment, hatred is one of the worst sins – a status never given to homosexuality in the Bible. I’m just saying, if I’m going to be misinterpreted, I would rather be interpreted to be endorsing homosexuality than to be hating gay people. Not only because hatred is worse than homosexuality, but because the appearance of hatred on my part would be a hindrance to homosexual people discovering the goodness of God.

See, I don’t think God is as concerned with the formal appearance of our actions as he is with their relational consequences. I believe God is more concerned with the practical than the symbolic. It’s not that God doesn’t care about symbolic things; it’s just that in the face of really big practical issues, symbols are not his first priority. It seems to me that the Church has been preoccupied with a symbol in the face of the very serious practical problem of our relationship with the gay community. In the present situation, I want to prioritise remedying a significant real-world problem with my vote.

What to do with uncertainty

I have to acknowledge that this is a very, very complicated topic. And, while I believe I hold my position with integrity and with good reasons, I do not have absolute certainty about it. So if I am uncertain, would it be better to err on the side of caution and “No”? Well, no, I don’t think so at all.

When Jesus healed a man on a Saturday, the Pharisees were caught up in the technicality of Jesus having “worked” on the Sabbath. Now, the Law forbade working on the Sabbath, but it actually didn’t stipulate what “work” means. Jesus responded to the Pharisees by asking whether it is lawful on the Sabbath to do good or to do harm (Mark 3:4). That is, he filled in the questions the Law leaves unanswered not with further regulation, but with the rule of compassion.

As I mentioned earlier, the Bible is silent on the issue of how to respond to a nation that wants to deviate from the Biblical understanding of marriage. It is a complex question in a complex situation. I think to say that marriage in the Bible is between a man and a woman and therefore we must obviously do everything in our power to ensure that non-Christians in our country to define it that way too is an oversimplification. And it fails to deal with the important relational factors that are at play in this situation. It fails to take into account how our speaking and our voting will affect individuals, communities, and the relationships between our communities. But I also cannot say that we should obviously vote “Yes”. That would be rather hypocritical, and I just don’t think any answer to this question is obvious. But when things get complicated, and there are arguments for both sides, and I am at risk of error whichever way I choose, out of reverence for God I would rather err on the side of compassion than err on the side of technical correctness. I would rather choose that which I know in myself is motivated by love and has foreseeable practical rewards than that which seems pious and orthodox but has foreseeable practical costs. God is not a bureaucrat. He’s our Father. And I’m making this decision in the context of relationship with him. I could be wrong. But if I am wrong, God knows what led me to choose wrongly. He knows that in a complex situation it was a decision motivated by love. And I pray that that pleases him, either way.





The following I don’t say as an accusation but as a confession: I believe that we as the Church have failed the gay community. We, who are called to be the defenders of the marginalised and the oppressed, have failed to defend these people, many times because we have been the very ones we were supposed to defend them against. For me, voting “Yes” to same-sex marriage is my way of saying, “I’m sorry we haven’t been there for you before, but I want to be there for you now.”

I want to help make the world better, safer, kinder, for gay people. I want them to live in a society where they feel that they are valued as equals. I want to be known individually as a Christian who prioritises love, compassion, kindness, and relationship. I don’t consider myself to be very good at doing that. But I hope I am getting there, and I hope this decision to vote in favour of same-sex marriage is a step along that path. I want gay people to believe that the Church is on their side, that our main message for them is about a love that is stronger and deeper and better than they can even imagine, a love that upstages everything, undoes everything, changes everything.

Imagine what could happen if they received that message.

I don’t believe they can hear it and hear a Church opposed to same-sex marriage at the same time. And I truly believe that the Church has no mandate from God to contest against gay marriage in this world. We must remember where our true citizenship lies – a Kingdom from which we come to the Earth as ambassadors and servants. What if, before trying to tell the gay community how we can serve them, we listened to them?

Perhaps it is not until they have the world as they want it that they will be willing to hear about a new world.

57 thoughts on “I’m a Conservative Christian, and I Intend to Vote “Yes” to Same-Sex Marriage

  1. Disagree with a lot, but an interesting read nonetheless. Great to see someone carefully thinking about the implications of such an important issue with great clarity.

  2. Sorry, sounds like a sell off. The scripture of 1 cor 9:22 doesn’t permit us to fly in the face of scripture. If it were, any practice could be claimed as just an avenue for conversion. Drug dealers…prostitution. …?
    Well presented and important to consider, but its a no from me.
    Thanks for posting.

  3. Interesting read. Some relevant points that I agree, fundamental Christians should be thinking about rather than just quoting scripture. But Lachlan, you seem to make up a lot or irrelevant arguments just to find something to speak against. And then, all you are offering is a policy of appeasement. History tells us that is not a good idea.
    And that’s the real issue.
    Unfortunately, the SSM argument is not against our gay friends (of which I have many), it is against a political lobby with a far left agenda. Why did they not want the plebiscite? Because they knew they would lose. Simple. So, cleverly, they are promoting the simplistic ‘love is love’ vibe to gloss over the deeper issues that will change for our society and for our children (Safe schools rubbish, etc). That’s the real, scary issue. It’s not about peace, love and harmony! Keep working through it – but dig deeper.


    • “Unfortunately, the SSM argument is not against our gay friends (of which I have many), it is against a political lobby with a far left agenda.”

      This is like saying that it would have been right to deny African-Americans their civil rights in the US, because the Black Panthers was a militant and at times violent group that sat at the extreme end of the civil rights movement.

      X number of African-Americans in 1968; maybe 3% involved in protests and civil disobedience which offended many people; maybe 0.05% involved with the Black Panthers or other radical groups; and would any reasonable person in ’68 say to an African-American: ‘You know, I believe in equal rights for all people regardless of color, but I’m going to vote ‘no’ to punish you for the misdeeds of the 3% of your race and especially the worst 0.05%’?

  4. Interesting and thoughtful article. It’s true that what we must want gay people to hear is the gospel.
    I would ask, that if a married gay person did believe the gospel, do you believe it would be right for them to separate?
    I think that while gay people need to hear of our love, they also need to know that there are fundamental differences between their relationships and true marriage which God affirms.

  5. A well thought-out article, I must say. However, while most of these arguments are logically valid, some of the premises are wrong. For example, I suggest you have a look a bit more into the attitudes of the LGBT lobby towards religious freedom, and then you will understand our legitimate concerns about that. There are many chilling examples; they’re not hard to find…

    Also it’s a big jump from saying that Christians shouldn’t campaign against SSM to saying that Christians should actually vote yes. Many of your arguments seem to support the former but offer very little support for the latter.

    While I think you’re spot on that government shouldn’t regulate all aspects of morality, SSM or no SSM is not about regulation of morality but about which relationships and family structures the government chooses to endorse and promote. As Christians, we should have concern for the good of society, and “the law is a teacher”, as they say. I think you far underestimate the long-term effects of elevating same-sex relationships to the status of marriage. What a country officially recognises as “marriage” should be expected to have massive effects on public perception and public policy towards relationships, family and sexuality (including such things as what children are taught in schools). In a country with SSM it would be hard to argue (even as a secular politician) for the primacy of the natural family. It would be harder, for example, to implement policies designed to enhance family stability and prevent family breakdown.

    Finally, the article seems to take that as an unstated assumption that SSM would be good for LGBT people. I think a Christian, eternal perspective is lacking here. Love sometimes says no, and in this case I think we should say no, for the good of society.

  6. Thank you for this article. It was very thoughtful. As a conservative Christian with a lgbtq family member, I’ve found it so hard to communicate love because whenever I’m asked what I think as a Christian, my answer isn’t heard as love. I have a question for you, I’m American and my sibling is getting married in a SSM. As a Christian I am deeply struggling with the decision to go or not go. If I don’t, I fear I will deeply damage our already rocky relationship, if I do, I fear that I may be taking part in a celebration of sin and I may be choosing the easier path over God. What would you do? I’m desperate for advice from compassionate conservative believers.

    • Sarah, I too am a conservative Christian and I think you should attend the wedding. Attending doesn’t mean you agree with SSM; it just means that you care about your sibling. For example, if a friend invites me to their Catholic church and I attend, it doesn’t mean I suddenly agree with Catholic theology – I’m just there to support a friend, nothing else. Hope it works out well for you. Peter

    • Hi Sarah – I’m also a conservative, evangelical Christian. I strongly urge you to attend his wedding for this reason:-
      – your sibling knows you are a Christian and do not approve of the homosexual behaviour. Remember, it is God’s prerogative to ultimately judge your sibling, not yours by “punishing” him/her. Your sibling knows your position, so not attending will simply create the perception that you are unloving when in fact you’re not. You need to maintain good relations with your sibling as an act of love (remember, love is “the greatest thing” 1 Corinthians 13) and to keep open this vital communication between unbeliever and believer. Romans 12:18 and Proverbs 25: 21, 22 back-up this principle of keeping good relations with all people, because of the possible opportunity God puts in your mutual paths somewhere down the track.It’s God’s work amongst sinners. We’re the instruments He uses…including you! All the best Sarah!

    • Sarah, your post is overflowing with love for your family. Go to the wedding, accept and love both these people and have a close relationship with them, as Christ would have done. They will love you every time you sin too!

    • I think a question to ask your sibling would be, do they believe that love always has to equal agreement (in general, for anything). If the answer is no, which for most rational people it would be, then you could gently point out that it’s just as true on the flip side; disagreement doesn’t mean a lack of love.

      Then, the question becomes this – should they even want you to attend the wedding ceremony if you disagree with the entire point of it?

      Perhaps a possible compromise would be to attend the reception after they have been married, as you would not be present as a witness during the actual marriage ceremony and “if anyone opposes this union speak now etc” part… since after they have been married you could consider it simply a party which you are showing up to in order to let your sibling know you love them and are still there for them, no matter how much you may agree or disagree on anything in life (since it’s not like you are expected to shun them for the rest of your lives after they get married).

      Just an option to consider, in case you hadn’t thought of it, but of course go with whatever you feel the Holy Spirit is telling you to do.

  7. I’m thinking gospel ministry does refer to the love of God in Christ. Good point. So your thinking in telling same sex attracted individuals we voted for ssm would make them more likely to believe in Jesus because they could see we love and accept them.

    Shouldn’t there also be a call to repent of sin (‘repent and believe the gospel’) and hearers should be encouraged to count the cost. Otherwise I’m wondering if this message of God’s love is one of cheap grace.

    For same sex attracted individuals this means a life of celibacy. Potentially for married same sex couples I’m wondering if this means divorce.

    At this point the people we tried to win over by saying we voted yes might question why we voted yes in the first place…

  8. Interesting points! I understand that we have been called to love our neighbors, not judge others and live our life by a Biblical standard. A standard which we are unable to cherry pick what we wish to agree or disagree with. A Christian’s personal stance should be irrelevant, his vote should align with his belief system, should it not? If they don’t align, why have the belief system at all.

    There is a bigger issue at hand – Freedom of speech. In countries like the US & Canada who have long turned their back on Biblical principles and passed SSM. If you have an opposing idea or opinion to the alt left, you are labeled uninclusive, bigoted, a racist, xenophobic, a fascist, etc..

    The problem comes when our political system and social constructs are altered to ‘silence’ the conservative, meaning voicing your conservative opinion can have you fined, arrested, ostracised or even fired from your job. All of which are currently happening in the US & Canada.

    You see it all starts with small compromises, such as ‘accepting’ SSM. It ends with being ‘forced’ to be ok with a 52 year old transgender man who identifies as a 6 year old girl using the same toilets as your 3 year old daughter. The same daughter who is confused about her own identity, because her non binary gender fluid teacher has replaced story time with sexuality studies and telling kids it’s ok to choose a different gender if that’s how you feel. And you can’t do a damn thing about it!

    Any faith that bends and twists to suit the political climate is laughable and not rooted in integrity. God’s word should be unwavering, cherished and upheld.

    I feel a ‘yes’ vote would contradict and undermine God’s word.

    If you’re trying to reach the unsaved, why would they want to follow a faith that is flaky and does not stand for what it teaches. While people may not like it, they should certainly respect it.

  9. I can see that you’ve tried to approach this issue with love as your guiding principle, and I am glad you have a heart for the world. I agree love should be our highest goal and attitude, and I’ve had many conversations along the lines of “how is the Gospel best served in the context of this debate”. But what is hard for all of us Christians is reconciling love with holiness, justice and ultimately hell – not just with regards to homosexuality, but with all activities and attitudes that are rebellious to God.

    God loves everyone far more than you or I ever could, but in his infinite wisdom, He will also punish many eternally.

    Reading Jesus’ words and Paul’s writings, I don’t get the impression that God is a lovey, dovey God. I don’t think our message is simply about telling the world of God’s love. There is a tragedy to the reality of what we are faced with. There are consequences to sin, but there are also costs of following Jesus. Our message is a call to the world to repent and follow – to turn around. God’s love and sacrifice is our motivation for this, and the Good News is what He did for us, but that’s not going to save anyone if they just take it as an “FYI”.

    This campaign is all about equality, in fact that’s all it’s about. Marriage is just one step in this process to engineer a society where – as one of my “yes” supporter friends said – being gay should be like being left-handed. However there is a “bait and switch” in the debate that the equality of the person is the same as the equality of their relationship. This is not the case. You can embrace someone as an equal, while saying their relationship is not equal.

    For me, having direct experience in this area, and having many gay friends with various relationship exposure; the message that a gay relationship should be aspired to, and is equal, is one of the biggest lies we can tell people. I know no one who’s story of pursuing this goal doesn’t overflow with sin and disappointment, despite their best intention.

    I think if you look at Jesus’ approach, and the early church, they didn’t strive to make a comfortable situation for everyone so they could feel loved and accepted before revealing the fine print that sin was a problem.

    Aside from voting “yes”, how are you living out the ideals stated in your conclusion? I don’t think it’s effective or honest to send forth a message of “free love for everyone” if in your heart you think their most intimate desires are pure rebellion. Isn’t this just a betrayal that’s going to do more harm than good when they find out how you feel?

    That aside, I do disagree with a heap of what you’ve written here. I don’t think you’ve immersed yourself in evidence of the consequences, or fully investigated and engaged with key arguments; and some of your conclusions are wrong. Drop me an email if you want to go through these together in more detail.

    • Marriage Equality is the marketing term coined by the “yes” campaign. It’s been specifically advised AGAINST using in objective contributions to the debate, even by the likes of the ABC. It’s important to use “same-sex marriage”, as it’s NOT actually marriage equality. The legal changes suggested are only to allow same-sex couples to marry. It’s still not for everyone, and the same other restrictions apply: e.g. marriage is not for: children, those already married, between parents and children, or between other close family members, or with non-humans, or with deceased people.

      • Yeah way to twist my words. I’m obviously talking about consenting adults within the confines of other laws here… not incest and child spouses. Don’t be so silly. The plebiscite is to remove the words “between a man and a woman” to as to be inclusive of non binary and trans folk as well. As part of the community who this affects I still advocate for it being called “Marriage Equality”.

        But to be honest, you believe in a magical sky daddy so I’m not going to take your argument as valid, OK?

      • The absurd thing is that republicans in some cases fail to realize in some cases is that their opposition to same sex marriage will alienate a demographic that is never going to vote for them because of that. I am a Conservative Christian myself and have no problem with same sex marriage.

    • It’s not marriage equality – it’s not about everyone regardless of gender – what about bi-sexuals? What if I wanted to marry a woman and a man? or two women or two men etc. there’s more people who identify as bi-sexuals than homosexuals – if it’s marriage equality where’s the equality for them in the changing of the definition?

  10. thank you so much for this wonderful piece. It is both rational and reasoned and also passionate and godly. I am an Australian gay person and a devoted Christian. I have never had trouble being gay and a Christian until these last few weeks. My Christianity is about my life orientation, not my sexual orientation. I live and work passionately and devoutly in service of God.

    This same sex marriage argument is so divisive. I feel very frightened about what is going to happen. It is so upsetting to see others respond in your comments and realise that they are unable to confront their own prejudices and unwilling to humble themselves. They are missing such a chance to let their light shine. I dread the division and anger and misconceptions that the next few months will bring and fear untold damage to both communities – the gay community and the Christian community.

    I am trying to work out how I can be useful in an outreach role, talking to people in both communities to achieve greater understanding. I would really like a summary page of your arguments – feel this could be vital for ministry as well as a personal comfort to many. Do you think you might write one? The level of detail here is brilliant for those who want to engage deeply, but may be intimidating for others.

    • Hi Jen,
      I know we dont know each other from a bar of soap, but I’m interested to know what your convictions are as a gay christian (as i myself dont know any gay christians personally). Do you believe that homosexual sex is a sin? I know all christians struggle with sin and temptation, but some realise their sin and confess it and ask for Gods help to stop, while accepting his grace and forgiveness for their sin.

      Obviously just ignore the question if you feel i’m out of line asking

  11. Great article, it details many of my thoughts. As sojourners and exiles we need to keep clear the distinction between our moral view and what should be the law of the land.

  12. Millionaire gay fathers to sue the Church of England for not allowing them to get married in the church
    Barrie Drewitt-Barlow said that he wants to marry partner Tony in a church
    Said that the only way forward is to challenge the church in court
    It is a test for Cameron’s promise to the CofE and Roman Catholic bishops
    Said that no church would be forced to conduct same-sex weddings
    Barrie and Tony now have five children through surrogate mothers

  13. Thank you for the thought and writing here and a friendly discussion environment with all the replys above. I think this is an evidence of love in the Christian community, love does not mean to agree with everything about the other one. Love in 1 Corinthians 13 is about thinking for the best interests of the other as Jesus demonstrated on the cross for us. Jesus love us and willingly died for us , yet he also ask us to say sorry and be repented for our sins. In the same way, we need love the homosexual people yet still need to tell them homosexuality is wrong according to God’s design of marriage which is between one man and one woman, and the sex bonding is only in marriage. If this is the case, you may not vote “yes” for the hope of your same sex friend to be feel loved by you to listen a gospel that say “no” to their sexual practices in marriage. Your action may confuse them about the true gospel which require them to be abstinent from homosexuality. Your way of love is contradicted to the love of 1 Corinthians 13 for their best interest according tothe gospel.
    Secondly, I think you are using the retrieve ethics to argue that the best outcome now is to vote “yes” to show your love for the same-sex friend since the Australian public will pass the vote anyway. However, I think you are wrong on this way of thinking . first it is not a true love according to example of Jesus as I explained in the above. Second, you are not sure that the vote will be pass, the redefinition of marriage not only affect the Christian religion , the jewdo-Christian tradition about marriage, also other cultural and religions about marriage. The majority of Australian people who tend to vote yes are those thinking this is a right issue for two loved one to be together and did not consider the impact for the family, children and the whole society. There are many evidences to show that same-sex people in Australia alreay have the same rights to be recognized as couple in Australia as the married couple according to current traditional understanding of the marriage. There many evidences in showing that the change of definition in marriage will effect the family and children. As Christian we knew that this kind of union is against the God’s created order, yet not ever Australian see the world as God created and knew the consequences of sin. for this reason, we need to inform general Australian about their short sight in this issue and let them see the goodness of God’s creation in helping them to acknowledge there is a Creator and they should know him and the Gospel. This should be the loving way to the general Australian as a Christian , not just let them misunderstood the issue and vote yes along with them. In this case, Christian ethic should not be retrieve ethic, only think about the second best under current situation and not uphold the truth of the God and his plan for us in the Gospel.

    Thirdly. You say this is not a moral issue but a state issue that Christian should not make the decision based on their faith at all. Christian are called to the kingdom of God yet still live in the earthly kingdom. We actually are living in the two kingdoms, the kingdom of God by faith , and the kingdom of world by our action of love to proclaiming the gospel of Jesus. It is not good just focus on the kingdom of God and push for Christian value to the governce of world by force which you definitely againsted and I am also agree with. However, it is also not wise just let the world be what they want to become and not take the active part in to show the right way. We are called to also be the salt and light in the world. We need let the people of this world to know the light of the Gospel beginning from the creation of God in the created order and the definition of marriage. Therefore, you uphold your Christian understanding of marriage and vote no is a proper way to show your love and concern for the Australian people not only to them same sex friend but to love all people as the same. Of course, not just vote no, you also need to explain to them why you vote no and still love them. This is the same to you vote yes and still love them and need to explain the bible actually say no to them. This second way may be confuse them and lead them to misunderstood the Gospel.

    Fourthly, the yes campaign has political agenda to push marriage denfinition further which you can read out more from the no campaign and exam its credibility by yourself. What I want say is that the yes campaign people are not your same sex friend who only think about the marriage as a symbol for them for recognition. They saw it as the first step of victory for their political agenda to get rid of Christian value in the society. In this case, we as Christians need protect our freedom of religion and speech and say no to the yes campaign. Your same-sex friend may be misleaded by the yes campaign, in this case you may need vote no and help them to see things clearly in a loving way. This should be an action of love for them as this is for the interest of them to know the truth.

    Fifthly, you argument for voting yes is proplematic for Christians to vote yes in other debates as well. For example, I know killing is wrong according to the bible, yet I will vote yes for abortion because this is my way to love those people who want the love of sex without consequences or I will vote yes for euthanasia to love those people want to end their life in suffering, because the majority of Australian will vote yes and we as Christians should not bring our Christian faith into the state issue. The reason Australian people would support abortion or euthanasia is because they do not believe God is the creator and there is something more meaningful in the life than live happily and freely. Similarly, there is something more meaningful in the marriage than just love freely.

    Lastly, the marriage is not a light symbol for Christians according to the bible that we can easily give away. In Genesis 2, marriage is the foundation for family and society structure, for spreading out the earth in recreation, and for the union of two become one. In ephician 5, marriage is the example of relation between Jesus and the church . In revelation 21, there is a marriage of Jesus and his bride church yet to come. This just some simple thoughts about the symbol of marriage and significance, that is why traditionally marriage is a holy scarement. If the marriage symbol can be redefined and endorsed the homosexuality which God treated as abomination in the scripture, what Jesus would feel in his second coming? This is not a light symbol, it worthy for Christians to say no and fight for it!

    If you really believe the teaching of bible and still vote yes according to your conscience, I trust that the Lord will forgive you and you still my brother and the children of God. However, it may not be wise thing to do according to my opinions above and even not a good example for other brothers to follow. Please consider our words of rebuking with love and response with your understanding or even remove this post from your blog for be a good testimony for Lord Jesus and his gospel!

    I pray that the Holy Spirit will teach and guid you and others to make the wise decisions in time!

    • Great response Tom, an abundance of truth in your reply. Jesus came to bring light into darkness. His message was repent, turn from sin, and believe, and He will set you free. It isnt loving to say that homosexuality is ok. Gods grace is enough to cover all sin but gay people still need to know that its still sin. What happens when our gay friends die, and no one has lovingly tried to share the truth and the good news of the gospel?

      I do believe that this continuous push by the LGBT to change the definition is not about marriage at all, but to normalise homosexuality. They will not be satisfied until they can sexually do whatever they want and not be looked down upon or be shamed by their perversion.

      It will soon be illegal for anyone to call it a perversion, to teach our kids that it is sin, and to keep our kids from being taught that gay sex is just another standard form of sex thats totally ok and normal.

      “In a similar way, Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding towns gave themselves up to sexual immorality and perversion. They serve as an example of those who suffer the punishment of eternal fire. In the very same way, on the strength of their dreams these ungodly people pollute their own bodies, reject authority and heap abuse on celestial beings.”
      ‭‭Jude‬ ‭1:7-8‬ ‭NIV‬‬

      • How would you feel if we were being looked down on just because you were straight? Also not every lgbtqia+ member wants to do things sexually and wants rights to do things sexually. Some of us gay people just want to be accepted by the world for who we are. Were you born straight, or did you choose to be straight because the bible speaks against being gay?

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  15. Thank you for articulating the many reasons I feel compelled to vote yes simply BECAUSE I’m a bible believing disciple of Jesus. I think you’re spot on about the resistance to SSM coming from a place of fear or the perceived future threats to religious freedom. I like how you keep the focus on the reality of the Kingdom we are already citizens of and how indestructible God’s church really is. Do we not trust God to keep his Kingdom growing like an out of control mustard weed!? Do we really think that even potential changes in legislation could hinder His work?? Perspective is key! Let’s just get on with the task of being faithful and godly as Christians, always eager to demonstrate God’s love to our neighbours in word and deed. Then let our SSM friends ask us about the hope that we have and go from there shall we.

  16. In my opinion this is a silly article, in that the author tries too hard to be “nice” to proponents of SSM.

    The question is simple. If Jesus had an active vote – how would He vote?

    And btw, if one says YES. Wow. Will He act contrary to His Word?

  17. You lost me on this claim: “That is because the state (in a Western democracy) is rightly not intrinsically interested in punishing people for immoral acts.” Really? So there should be no laws against murder, rape, theft, arson, perjury, driving recklessly, etc., etc.? Once you divorce law from morality, you have only pragmatic considerations as your guide. But pragmatics are based on moral foundations. You can’t get away from it.

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  21. As a bisexual Christian I believe that we should vote for what we believe not what people want s to believe. But also why should our religion choose what we believe? God loves us all and just because I know that it doesn’t make me want to be straight. It doesn’t make me any straighter than I am. Even though we know God loves us it doesn’t suddenly change our sexuality that God gives us. When we are little kids we don’t care about race nor sexuality all we care about is having friends, and then as we grow up we are taught to hate certain races, religions, and sexualities. If Jesus was alive today he would treat us lgbtqia+ members like he treats everyone else.

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